Welcome

Hey ya'll! Welcome to my blog. This is a place where I am going to share the story of my battle with secondary infertility...the good and the bad, my life as a mom to two children from a previous marriage and trying to make life between their two families run smoothly, and hopefully it will eventually be the place where I talk about starting all over with a baby and a preteen!

A little about us first. I am Stephanie, the mom of the bunch. I an very near to turning 29 years old. I grew up in West Virginia and lived there my entire life. During the summer between my Junior and Senior year in high school there was this guy. We all know the problems those can cause! lol This one ended up being the daddy to my two children and my first husband. Two weeks before I started my senior year in high school I found out I was pregnant with Sierra. One month before my 18th birthday, I had her on the first day of spring break my Senior year. Not exactly a day at the beach! Though I didn't realize it at the time (or until MUCH later) this was the day that I began my battle with secondary infertility.

I went on birth control shots for 6 months (a total of 2 shots) and then we decided to start trying again. It would be 2 1/2 years later before I was back in L&D. One month after my 21st birthday I gave birth to Will. I didn't really think much of it because my ex had a schedule that kept him away from home for a few days at a time. We did decide that there wouldn't be any birth control after Will's birth and we would just let nature take it's course. If we were supposed to have another baby soon, we would.

When Will was 3 1/2 and Sierra was 6 1/2 their father and I split up. Three and a half years and no other babies. That should have been a red flag, I didn't see it. Besides....we weren't really TRYING, we just hadn't PREVENTED anything.

For the next year I did the single mommy thing which every single mommy knows means working way more hours than any one person should have too....usually at a job that doesn't pay anywhere near enough, not getting to spend enough time with your kids, and wishing you had just a FEW more hours in your day. The one treat that I allowed myself daily was time on a message board that I had joined with a friend. It was really a dating site, but I made sure no one even tried. I clearly stated that my kids were number one. I said up front, in large bold print on my profile that if a guy was interested he had to come to me, and if things worked out he had to move.....I was staying put. Not negotiable.

Then one day there was this guy. UH-OH! We wanted to meet, but his car wouldn't make the trip from Iowa to West Virginia, so the trip would have to wait several months. Except I am impulsive and impatient and I decided to break my rule. UH-OH! I made the trip to Iowa and things went great! I had known beforehand that this was going to get serious. Now I knew I wanted to marry the guy. A couple of months later he came to West Virginia and by the end of that trip we were talking about someone moving. Remember....I was clear about this up front. My kids were rooted. It was the town I had lived in for the past 21 years. So of course....I packed up my car and moved! lol He did have a much better paying job with room for advancement, while I was ....well, working in a fast food joint. I could find that anywhere!

Stay tuned......we still have three years to cover just to get to today!